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Be Selfish!

Be Selfish!

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Maybe it is a gift… or, maybe it is a part of me that cries out for approval, possibly both… but I have always been a chaser. A pursuer. Not in a creepy, sketchy way, but a way in which I want others to know they are loved.

When someone in need calls, I answer. When my husband wants a table of food and I am desperately tired and wish he could just make a bowl of cereal or his own sandwich, I still cook. When I receive a gift card to buy myself a treat, I spend it on loved ones who are in need… I typically call first, write first, buy the gift first, make the invite first, rescue someone first… As I am on my journey to better health, I realize how I keep getting myself in this situation where I am desperate to lose weight.

Putting others first is a beautiful gift. To live a selfless life, and loving others more than yourself…only God could help us live such a sacrificial life.

While I strive for this daily, and I truly enjoy giving to others more than I do myself, I am dangerously neglecting who I am; and if I am honest, I am a little bitter because I feel so unchased (this can be tackled in another post).

We forget about our health, not just physically but spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. When we forget, it takes its toll, and we end up binging on all kinds of vices to feel better. Mine = food;
especially chocolate!

It is not selfish to focus on you for the sake of improvement. Nor to have goals to achieve greatness. In that sense, I would echo the words of Biggest Loser trainer Bob Harper “Sometimes it’s important to be selfish. What have you done for YOU lately?”[1]

Now of course, I’m not actually suggesting we be selfish in the sinful kind of way. Bob himself explained what he meant when he posted, “Taking care of yourself IS NOT selfish. Think about it. If you don’t care about yourself, how can you take care of anyone else!” I couldn’t agree more. [2]

God can use us so much more effectively when we live our lives to it’s fullest potential. Don’t grow weary in doing good for others. And don’t grow weary in doing good for you – in an
unselfish way. I guess a good way to sum it all up is like this: “Take the time to be unselfishly selfish.”

I need to remind myself of this daily: Stop. Slow down. Take a breath. Focus. Reconnect with yourself and your Maker. Then you can do even greater things for Him.

Here’s to another month, by the grace of God, of self-discovery, improvement, and successes.


photo credit: 2011 You Go Girl Half Marathon – Mile 2.7 via photopin (license)




Nelson Fernandez

Nelson is married to the love of his life, Sarah, and together have a son named Isaac. He serves as Associate Pastor at Miami Temple SDA, a multilingual, multiethnic, and multicultural church in South Florida. He loves ministry, Marvel movies, video games, Naruto, and serving the local church. He also runs his own blog about leadership, evangelism, and practical Christianity at You can follow him on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram @nelsonblogs.

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